Category: 2022

Christmas Day has come and gone. The kids and I sat on the couches after all of the Christmas presents had been unwrapped. But there was one item let unopened. It was an envelope sitting in the branches of the Christmas tree. Sabin volunteered to open the envelope and read what was inside. Last year […]

The Christmas season is upon us. Christmas lights decorate houses everywhere you go. Christmas music plays in the stores and on radio stations. Stores and malls are decorated. The Christmas season is a joyous season. That is until you are walking through it in the aftermath of the death of a loved one. This year […]

A couple of years ago I made shirts for Ben and Sabin for their birthdays. Ben’s said Legend and Sabin’s said Legacy. Sabin wore his for Ben’s funeral and I had Ben’s on the table at the front of the church the day of the funeral service. Ben was a legend of sorts. And Sabin […]

On this day one year ago I stood next to Ben’s bed in the ICU and watched as he passed from this life. I had my sister, my kids and son-in-law in that room with me. It was the hardest thing I have ever been through. My life changed forever that day. Nobody plans to […]

The loss of a loved one can be and often is a very traumatic event. Trauma changes the brain. It changes how we think and process things. It is quite amazing how the brain works. Most of us have certain things that trigger good memories. Maybe it is the sight of a Christmas tree that […]

It is fall in Michigan. Fall brings with it a lot of change. The days get shorter. The temperature gets cooler. The leaves change color. Just as fall brings lots of change each year, life brings lots of change as well. Change is a constant in life. Nothing really stays the same for very long. […]

Many of us probably always wished to be part of the popular group as we were growing up. We wanted to be part of the in crowd. Part of the “club”. But there is a club that no one signs up for. A club that no one that qualifies for wants to be a part […]

School has been back in session in our district for 4 weeks now. With the start of school comes a return to a routine. Soccer is in full swing and Sabin is also playing football this year. I will be a busy mom this fall! Last year on Labor Day weekend I convinced Ben that […]

A storm blew through the area the other day. On the weather radar there was quite a bit of yellow and red which means it was a pretty strong storm. The winds were very strong. As the storm blew through, I stood and watched out the window just outside my office. I watched the trees […]

Today would have been my 23rd wedding anniversary. The vows Ben and I exchanged on that day almost 23 years ago said “until death do us part”. When we stood there in that church, there was no thought that Ben would be gone so soon. If someone had told us on our wedding day that […]